THE FIRST DATE
K: I had never been on an online date before and I was super nervous. I told one of my friends that if I don't get back to them by 10:30 to call or text and see if I was ok. As I was walking up to Kings Cafe I saw a man, whom I thought was my date, sitting at a window seat nervously looking at his phone.
When I walked in his face lit up when he looked at me. "You must be Katie."
At that moment, I knew it was going to be a good night.
J: Prior to meeting her, I went into the typical first date with a set of "ground rules" for myself, to ensure the date was not a complete train wreck
1. Be original with the pick of what & where (avoid the cliche dinner and a movie)
2. Be open, but try to avoid the danger zones (topics of politics, religion, and previous dates)
3. Keep the first date to two hours tops
Needless to say, date one with her did not exactly go according to plan.
J: We went to a local wine dive for Trivia Tuesday (which ended up being on Wednesdays), we covered nearly every topic under the sun (including the danger zones), and the night ended up lasting a bit longer than initially expected.
Six hours later, with most ground rules bent or broken, tons of jokes and stories shared, and huge smiles on our faces, we were and are happier than ever to label that "train wreck" night our first date.
"I LOVE YOU"
J: I had never been a fan of plunging into love. Sharing those three words should be something special and not thrown around like it was going out of style. That said, I was uncharacteristically fortunate enough to know early on in the relationship that she was the one for me and, like any man hesitant to openly share his heart, I went with this progression over the following months to really express how I felt.
I kinda like you.
I like you.
I really like you.
I cartoon heart you. (followed by drawing a cartoon heart on her hand)
I think I might more than cartoon heart you.
I love you.
In hindsight, I would only suggest this extremely "brave" tip-toe approach with a very special (and patient) someone.
ALMOST ONE YEAR IN
K: I had stayed over at his place and ended up leaving after he had already went to work in the morning (which never happens). When I went to grab my stuff, I had a little note on my purse that said, "Katie, you're an inspiration into the man I want to be; you're a glimpse into the life I wish to have. I adore you. XOXO I love you, Jake". I knew that he meant it and that I was truly appreciated and loved.
K: We were making a meal of some sort and started having a food fight. We might have been using flour or something powdery. I just remember laughing so hard that I was on the ground for a couple of minutes, my stomach hurt so much.
He loves to pick me up and spin around while tickling me. If we didn't have such similar types of humor, I don't know where we'd be today.